The OCZ memory was apparently the culprit (thank God).

I bought the 2X2GB DDR800 Mushkin kit and no problem getting into recovery with these 1.8-2.0V Mushkin sticks.

Right now I'm running FSB at 266mhz, reference strap 266mhz and memory frequency 800 mhz with very loose timings 5-5-5-18 I think.

So far it's looking good. I will have to start testing and see if I can get back to the 3.2ghz cpu speed I was running with my 9X core duo cpu.

Thanks for the suggestions that people provided, it was definitely helpful!

PS, OCZ PC2-8500 Nvidia SLI sticks are junk. Don't buy them. I will be contacting OCZ for an RMA on these junk sticks and selling whatever they send me as a replacement on eBay.