Welp I've had everything up and running for a bit, as folows.
P5K Deluxe 0311 bios
Xeon 3060 L631F561 (@ 9x333 for 3Ghz 1.32V load (1.35 bios)) has a pack date of 2/28/07 so far prime stable for 22 hrs @ stock and 4hrs so far at 3Ghz
4 x 1GB of Ballistix 2 1066 and 2 1000 5 5 5 12 @ 2.2v (10+ hrs memtested) useing the 2:3 divider and they seem fine at DDR 1000
EVGA Geforce 8800GTS superclocked @ stock
Samsung SP2504C 250gig system disk
Western Digital WD3200JD x2 320gig ea SATA
Lite-On 20x Sata DVD burner
PCP&C 750 Silencer Quad
Antec P180 v1.1
Stock Intel cooler
WinXP Pro Sp 2

I've got an Antec spot cool 80mm fan on my NB and it's runing at 1.25V but it's temps are still sky high at 51-2 C under load, and like 40-41 idle, my CPU idles at a lower temp than the NB Is that safe? not sure what I can really do to get it much better, I've also got the OCZ ram cooler w/ 2x 60mm fans on the Ballistix and they seem fine but I am kinda worried about the NB. Any suggestions?