Over at home we let people keep their crunching bling, that's our policy. Anyone that says they're leaving for whatever reason gets a "thanks for your effort, don't be a stranger on the forums xoxo" kind of message with no grudges/bad feeling etc. I only get the 'ump if someone comes in, makes a lot of noise and then vapours off without a word. If someone did that at the local sports club they'd likely get some unkind retribution from the team.
All it takes is a simple, even private, message and everything's cool bananas. I've got more respect for someone that quits and tells me it's because I'm a a-hole than for "Houdini" who just vanishes without a word.
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