Thanks everyone for all the help...I Finally got things working pretty good.

I was able to get about 2950 Mhz but the temps were getting in the 60's, so I backed down. I am now at 2860Mhz and Orthos stable! Temps 30/48

As for the RAM. Initially I increased the trfc values hoping that would fix things. Well it may have but I think most of my RAM issues were due to it being clocked at lower than suggested voltage! It was at about 1.9v so I changed it to 2.15v. Now I was able to move trfc back down to its lowest setting 75ms, and lower the timings a bit too.

This was a build for a friend so I am pretty happy with the results. Thanks!