I actually figured out the problem. Before i used to have a sandy 3700, and everytime i would overclock i would always find my self using the 5/6 divider. But since i've had this opty 165 for a while and played with the settings, i discovered that it no longer likes the 5/6 divider, but the 3/4 divider. Its weird because it was the exact opposite with my sandy.
And no i can't post a a64 tweaker shot. It had some major problems on my computer so i had to delete it by booting in safe mode. Sorry
Right now i'm still running ddr500 on a 3/4 divider 3-3-2-8, but i've been tweaking it at those settings and managed to knock my everest latency down from 43ns+ to low 41's. It also ran 32mb super_pi successfully, occt, and am3.0. But if i could i would like to get my ram a little faster, but i'm not sure how much my cpu could take until it reaches its breaking point where i would have to major increases to cpu voltage and lose reliability.