I have a pair of 6850s that work on my DFI "DK" X48 fine... have you added the power connector to the pci-e power plugs on the motherboard? there's a floppy power prong near each pci-e slot and those are for addition extra pci-e power.. the 6870 should not be so demanding that you need those but it's something to try.
as for flashing, I'd just create a bootable usb drive and then stick the bios and flash util on that.
http://www.bootdisk.com/pendrive.htm
might help.. not sure tho as I haven't use that link in a while.. but you should be able to google and find what you need to make a bootable flash disk.