What women really mean...
WHAT WOMEN REALLY MEAN...
I hope you're sitting down... because what I'm
about to share with you will change how you view
women and dating.
I'm about to take you "behind the scenes" in
the female mind.
I'm going to give you a perspective that most
men never see or realize.
Unfortunately for most guys, not seeing things
the way I'm about to share with you keeps them
trapped in their own little world of failure.
If you pay careful attention to the things I'm
about to reveal to you, you'll definitely have
more success with women.
THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN WORDS AND THE
REAL WORLD...
Have you ever heard a woman say something like:
"I want a guy who is sensitive."
"I want a guy who's in touch with his feelings."
"I want a guy who's a good communicator."
"I want a guy who is strong."
"I want a guy who is sexy."
...?
Of course you have.
Women say this stuff all the time.
One of my favorites is:
"I want a REAL MAN."
I love that one.
In the past, when I'd hear women say "I want
a REAL MAN" I had NO IDEA what the hell they
were talking about.
It almost didn't make sense.
But keep in mind, even though these things
don't always make sense to us guys, they make
PERFECT sense to women.
Here's the problem...
When a woman says one of these things, she
actually MEANS something that is different from
what a guy would mean if he said the same
words.
Let me explain.
If a guy says "I'm going to stay home and
relax today", he probably means that he's going
to stay home, watch some sports, drink a beer,
look at pictures of women on the internet, and
order a pizza.
If a WOMAN says that she's going to stay home
and relax, she's probably NOT going to watch
some sports, drink a beer, look at pictures of
women on the internet, and order a pizza.
IMPORTANT NOTICE: If you are reading this right
now and you are a woman who watches sports,
drinks beer, looks at pictures of the women on
the internet, and orders pizza to relax, then
contact me immediately at the email address
below. And send pictures.
Back to what I was saying...
Women are DIFFERENT from men. And the words
they use often don't mean what they SOUND like
they mean.
So the FIRST thing that you have to get
through your head is that just because a woman
SAYS something to you doesn't mean that it means
that you THINK it means.
Catch my meaning?
THE BIG SECRET SHE ISN'T TELLING YOU
There's a little secret that women never
happen to mention when they're describing what
they want in a man.
Unfortunately for all of us good guys who
are trying to be what women want... and hoping
that if we try hard enough to please women that
they'll like us... this little secret is causing
us a LOT of trouble.
The SECRET is that women ONLY want the things
that they're asking for from a guy who already
has about 100 other qualities that they never
mention.
In other words, if a woman says "I want a man
who is a good communicator", what she REALLY
means is:
"I want a guy who already has his life together,
is interesting, unpredictable, dominant, funny,
healthy, charismatic, confident, and loyal...
who is ALSO a good communicator."
The REALITY is that when a woman says one of
these "I want a guy who" statements, she actually
has an IDEAL guy in mind, who ALSO happens to
be a good communicator.
She's NOT imagining Homer Simpson sitting on
his couch reading a book on communication.
The reality of this situation is that what
women RELLY want is a man who makes them feel the
emotional and physical response that I like to
call ATTRACTION.
They want a man who makes them FEEL IT.
But most women either can't describe the
things that actually make her feel ATTRACTION,
or they don't WANT to have to describe them,
because they want a man who already IS those
things... without having to learn them.
Think about it.
If you were hiring a bodyguard, would you
want one that said "Yea, I can be a bodyguard.
Just give me some time to learn..." or would
you want one that already KNEW how to kick ass
anytime, anywhere without having to learn?
Duh.
Well same goes with women.
They don't WANT a guy that they have to train.
If you don't already have the UNIVERSAL
FOUNDATION of what attracts women, then no amount
of changing and improving things like your
communication and sensitivity is going to help
you.
WHAT IS A REAL MAN?
Lately I've been thinking a lot about the idea
of a "Real Man".
You hear both women and men using the term.
But what does it actually MEAN?
And is it important?
Well, after thinking about this particular
topic for a long time, I've come to the conclusion
that it is a VERY important topic.
At this point, I believe that a REAL MAN is
this "ideal" that women imagine when they're
saying "I want a guy who is sensitive".
They're thinking of the REAL MAN, and then
they're imagining him ALSO being sensitive.
There are a lot of aspects to this REAL MAN.
Here are a few that are important:
-Status
-Lack of Insecurities
-Standards
-Experience
-Humor
-Unpredictability
-Leadership
-Challenge
...and the list goes on.
It's actually not easy to describe a REAL
MAN in a few sentences... but I'll tell you
what... a woman can recognize one INSTANTLY.
THE MISTAKE MEN MAKE
Now, a common mistake that men make is taking
something that a woman SAYS that she wants, and
doing it TOO MUCH, thinking that if "A little
bit is good, then more must be better".
For instance, a woman SAYS that she likes guys
who are "thoughtful". So you go out and buy her
a bunch of gifts, and give her cute cards every
time you see her, and call her all the time to
tell her that you miss her.
What happens?
She leaves you for her jerk ex-boyfriend.
Huh?
This would be kind of like a woman saying "My
favorite food is chocolate" and then you thinking
it would be good to feed her chocolate for every
meal just because it's her favorite... or adding
chocolate to every single dish you make for her
from now on... and forgetting that 97% of what
she eats still needs to be OTHER FOODS.
Let me land the plane for you.
Women don't MEAN what you THINK they mean
when they talk about what they want in a man.
And if you take the things women say too
literally, you're going to wind up shooting
yourself in the foot.
WHAT WOMEN REALLY MEAN...
So let me "decode" what women "really" mean
when they say common things.
Consider this your own personal "female
language translator". Refer to it often.
WHEN A WOMAN SAYS...
"I want a guy who is sensitive."
WHAT SHE REALLY MEANS IS...
"I want a guy who is busy doing his own thing
in life, who has goals and objectives... who has
passion for things. If we're out together, he
always keeps me on my toes, and I'm always
wondering what's going to happen next. He's
challenging, interesting, and funny. I would
really like it if he was also sensitive enough
to know when I need a hug, or to be held, or
when I want him to make love to me."
Does this make sense?
Again, she's not imagining a picture of
a boring, predictable, Wussy who is sharing his
hurt feelings because he's so "sensitive".
Big difference.
WHEN A WOMAN SAYS...
"I want a guy who is in touch with his
feelings."
WHAT SHE REALLY MEANS IS...
"I want a guy who is strong-willed, and who
doesn't get upset about petty things... a guy
who can deal with the fact that I freak out
emotionally sometimes... and who knows how to
be cool when things are tough. But I also want
him to be in touch with his feelings so that:
1) He doesn't repress his emotions and then
eventually kill 10 people in his workplace, and
2) When he's intimate with me, and he feels a
passionate rush... he'll grab me and make love
to me like a beast!"
What she's NOT doing is making a picture of
a meek, afraid guy who calls all the time to
ask "Do you like me? Because I sure like you".
WHEN A WOMAN SAYS:
"I want a guy who's a good communicator."
WHAT SHE REALLY MEANS IS...
"I want a guy who doesn't talk all the time,
because he knows how to let me know what's on
his mind without using words. I want the kind
of guy that can touch me in a certain way and
I feel tingles all over my body. And I want the
kind of guy that can say things in a way that
I understand... not crudely and man-like."
WHAT ABOUT "SEXY"?
You'll often hear women saying that they
what a "Sexy Man".
Now, I USED to think that they meant that
they wanted a PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE man when
they said this.
Sometimes this is exactly what they mean
when they use the term "sexy". But I've found
that, most of the time, women mean something
TOTALLY different when they use the term
"sexy".
You see, a woman generally bases more of
her life around what she FEELS than a man does.
And the concept of "sexy" is usually used
to describe the way a man makes a woman FEEL
than it is used to describe how HE LOOKS.
Think about women's romance novels for
a moment. Women's romance novels account for
about a fifth of ALL BOOKS SOLD.
What do these books contain?
WORDS.
Words that DESCRIBE things.
Descriptions that make women FEEL things.
My point: If you want to learn how to be
a "sexy man", then the way you LOOK isn't the
most IMPORTANT thing.
I'll tell you something, too.
Learning the secrets of being a "sexy man"
can be a very rewarding experience.
A lot of guys out there, including me, know
EXACTLY what it's like to be either on a date
with, or in a relationship with a woman who
has NO INTENTION of being with you "physically".
In other words, she's just not feeling that
powerful "sexual" ATTRACTION for you.
And you don't know how to MAKE her feel it.
Well, let me tell you...
Just like all the other things that a woman
"says" that she wants in a man... that most men
don't ever "get", being SEXY is one of the BIG
ONES.
If you understand the secrets of being SEXY,
you will notice that women start to behave VERY
differently around you.
