Wife using reverse psychology

[St3vil_68]

OK, so I get up this morning and see a bunch of my puter stuff piled up in a place that it wasn't yesterday. I admit, I have stuff in the garage, in the bedroom and could probably find stuff in every room if I looked hard enough. Of course, i have a huge partially finished room upstairs that would be perfect for all this stuff (some is there too). :D

Anyway, I asked the wife what's up. Her reply was "I don't mind you spending tons of money on your hobby, but it's your hobby and if you want to keep any of this stuff then I suggest you find a nice spot to put it all, or it is going in the trash pickup tomorrow". :shocked:

I've spent the entire morning doing just that. I didn't realise just how much stuff I've accumulated, until putting it all upstairs. I think I could open a computer shop with all these spare parts.

http://members.aol.com/mm2246220/images/PC1.jpg

[Movieman]

OK, so I get up this morning and see a bunch of my puter stuff piled up in a place that it wasn't yesterday. I admit, I have stuff in the garage, in the bedroom and could probably find stuff in every room if I looked hard enough. Of course, i have a huge partially finished room upstairs that would be perfect for all this stuff (some is there too). :D

Anyway, I asked the wife what's up. Her reply was "I don't mind you spending tons of money on your hobby, but it's your hobby and if you want to keep any of this stuff then I suggest you find a nice spot to put it all, or it is going in the trash pickup tomorrow". :shocked:

I've spent the entire morning doing just that. I didn't realise just how much stuff I've accumulated, until putting it all upstairs. I think I could open a computer shop with all these spare parts.

Thank your lucky stars that you have her.
Most wouldn't see the value and toss it.
Now get a lock on that upstairs room!:rofl:

[SiGfever]

Sounds to me like your wife gave you the perfect opportunity to create the perfect computer/test/build room. :up:

[NaeKuh]

:rofl:
That has to be a total room for a packrat...

ima post this b4 someone beats me to it...

http://www.tucsongardener.com/Wildlife/Animals/Animalphotos/packrat2.jpg

But i think theres a bit of it in all of us who take computers as a "hobby" mines almost that bad too. Ive learned to throw things or donate them away :T

Actually i have cousins' who could be at best be compared to vultures. Once i retire a system, the poor thing gets butchered up and pieced out by them. :[

[St3vil_68]

Sounds to me like your wife gave you the perfect opportunity to create the perfect computer/test/build room. :up:


That's exactly what I have planned, but I wanted to do it when I wanted to not when I was told to do it... :rofl:

[Zytek_Fan]

That room needs benching stations and...

LASERS!

http://gallery.trance-foto.com/albums/2005/2005_11_12/054_Armin_Only_05-11-12_www_trance-foto_com.jpg

Or are you going for the man cave approach?

[SiGfever]

That's exactly what I have planned, but I wanted to do it when I wanted to not when I was told to do it... :rofl:

Better to do it before the wifey thinks that it will make a great sewing/ladies stuff room.

[dirtwarrior]

WOW You got a lot of stuff

[twilyth]

I vote for man cave - uh huh huh, uh huh huh, uh huh huh

[Movieman]

Better to do it before the wifey thinks that it will make a great sewing/ladies stuff room.

Listen to this guy..He knows..Grab while you can..
Nice Bench across one whole wall with shelves.
Pegboard on another. Wire first for cat6 recepticles every 6 ft.
Make it efficient and a enjoyable place to work.
Sound wiring, cheap flourescent lights and lot's of them.
Electrical outlets every 6ft and at least 2circuits,both on 20a breakers.
Don't forget a place to put the Playboy centerfolds!:ROTF:

[[XC] riptide]

That room needs benching stations and...

LASERS!

http://gallery.trance-foto.com/albums/2005/2005_11_12/054_Armin_Only_05-11-12_www_trance-foto_com.jpg

Or are you going for the man cave approach?

HAHAHAHAH!

Heres one I took myself....

[SiGfever]

Listen to this guy..He knows..Grab while you can..
Nice Bench across one whole wall with shelves.
Pegboard on another. Wire first for cat6 recepticles every 6 ft.
Make it efficient and a enjoyable place to work.
Sound wiring, cheap flourescent lights and lot's of them.
Electrical outlets every 6ft and at least 2circuits,both on 20a breakers.
Don't forget a place to put the Playboy centerfolds!:ROTF:
Spoken like a true divorce. :rofl: :sofa:

[MuffinFlavored]

Just off the bat I see a router, a keyboard, and 3 processors.

Nice collection.
Your wife lays down the law.

[[XC] serlv]

OK, so I get up this morning and see a bunch of my puter stuff piled up in a place that it wasn't yesterday. ...


I've spent the entire morning doing just that. I didn't realise just how much stuff I've accumulated, until putting it all upstairs. I think I could open a computer shop with all these spare parts.

http://members.aol.com/mm2246220/images/PC1.jpg


I'm with you. Hell, there is so much crap here I could never have a wife.

[St3vil_68]

Listen to this guy..He knows..Grab while you can..
Nice Bench across one whole wall with shelves.
Pegboard on another. Wire first for cat6 recepticles every 6 ft.
Make it efficient and a enjoyable place to work.
Sound wiring, cheap flourescent lights and lot's of them.
Electrical outlets every 6ft and at least 2circuits,both on 20a breakers.
Don't forget a place to put the Playboy centerfolds! :ROTF:

Well if I did that, I think she'd have all the house and I'd be homeless... :rofl:

[123bob]

serlv;2763249']I'm with you. Hell, there is so much crap here I could never have a wife.

Now here is a wise man....It took me a divorce to see that...:ROTF: I had tons of stuff (crap) here before, now I have even more stuff (crap)....The Wife-ectomy was not all that expensive, so it all worked out.....:D

For those wishing to stay married, first off, look over your shoulder....I'm about to give some married guy survival tips....very classified stuff below..:D :p: When you are clear, scroll down....DISCLAIMER: Remember I said I am divorced. Take this advice with a grain of salt. However, our marriage was fine while this was going on...:rofl: (To Phicks, I know you are a dedicated cruncher and probably know all these tricks already, so go ahead and scroll down and have a laugh....:D )






















St3vil_68, I see a GOLDEN opportunity for you here. I had about 1300 sq-ft of room in my last house that was unfinished. It was the entire second floor. The first floor had enough room for the family to live in. It was framed with stud walls only, much like you have now.

As long as it was a "construction zone", wifey never even came up there. I conducted many important guy projects up there including building a very nice butcher block spalted maple dining table, with wood from a tree I planted myself at age 3, and walnut framing, with Shaker style legs. Very nice and took about two months......There were also many electronics projects done, and some serious computer game play. I finished the entire Star Trek game (1996-97?) completely undisturbed......I managed to milk the overall project for about 3 years....:eek:

The first thing you need to put in is good electrical service and WAY more outlets and circuits than you think you need. (If it will become your farm room, I suggest at least 4-5 dedicated 12 gauge 20 amp circuits.) Put in the CAT 6 cable too. Your walls will never be as open as they are now...(OK, in your case you need to rip off some plastic and start over, but, if you spin it right, that should add several months to the beginning of many construction "delays". This will allow you to get "sidetracked" with the important computer business/crunching you are about to do.

Proceed SLOWLY with the drywall. After all, you are a perfectionist and drywall is VERY hard to get right....:D Texturing and/or painting should take you a good long while. After all, you don't want to have to redo the room if you don't get the texture and/or color right.....wifey will never forgive you for cutting corners here.....:eek:

Carpet comes absolutely last. This is a big budget item and requires you to save money for a good while. You don't want to skimp on your beautiful room with cheapo carpet that will show marks in just a couple of years....

Try not to make any expensive screw-ups. She will appreciate that you want to do this in a cost-effective manner. Errors that involve your labor are OK, you ain't being paid after all. Screw-ups that cost material will be noticed. This will require you to think carefully and ask for advice in order to make sure your heating capacity and duct choices work well, before you drywall. See the game here? Yup, you're right, thinking takes time. More construction delays and the opportunity for you to have to sit up there, and "look" at your work, in order to figure out the next steps. (A "sneaker" fridge works well here in order to have a place for your covert beers, while you are "thinking")

By the time you are done with the project, if it is only one room, she is used to living without it and it becomes your cave.....HERE'S AN IMPORTANT POINT>>> DO NOT screw up and have more kids than you have room for in the rest of the house. Otherwise, your cave is gone faster than you can bat an eye......

Hope this helps,
Bob

[Movieman]

Took me TWO divorces.. slow learner! :rofl:

[123bob]

....but now you really learned your lesson........:D :ROTF:

[أشرف]

Took me TWO divorces.. slow learner! :rofl:

Even though, you are a happy man. :up:

Or should I say old man?

[Movieman]

....but now you really learned your lesson........:D :ROTF:

Oh did I ever and my backside still hurts..
Been paying 2 females since 1979 with a 10 year hiatus in the middle.:shakes:

[[XC] riptide]

Bob. great guide.

However I'm a little more direct. I live on my own. but the GF and I have mentioned before about what it would be like living together. I said without delay, that if it ever happens "There will be the bedroom etc, and then there will be my room. With my computers and gadgets and stuff. And this room will have a key that I can lock myself into when I need my space."

[Movieman]

Even though, you are a happy man. :up:

Or should I say old man?

Actually both..The key is in accepting what you can't change and enjoying that which you can.
Also being able to laugh at your own failings and learn from them is an important part.
Ego isn't a usefull thing to have at 56.. Just gets in the way of learning.

[123bob]

riptide;2763474']Bob. great guide.

However I'm a little more direct. I live on my own. but the GF and I have mentioned before about what it would be like living together. I said without delay, that if it ever happens "There will be the bedroom etc, and then there will be my room. With my computers and gadgets and stuff. And this room will have a key that I can lock myself into when I need my space."

Be very careful Rip, I said to my ex that I would "never be her sugar-daddy". That was also before we were married. Her talons were in me so fast it almost knocked me over....:ROTF:

Just make sure you get the place before you are married and your room already has locks on it. She moves in with you, and you say, "Hey, it was like this before you married me...." It did work for me and I got a full garage of machine tools to prove it......:rofl:

[Vapor]

The other day my girlfriend (unprovoked) told me I'm getting my own play room when we get older...I would have jumped with joy but we were in a car...accident would have ensued.

[Movieman]

The other day my girlfriend (unprovoked) told me I'm getting my own play room when we get older...I would have jumped with joy but we were in a car...accident would have ensued.

I'm assuming she didn't notice the wet spot on your shorts?:rofl:
Is this a new method of forplay that this old guy isn't privy to?

[123bob]

An unsolicited tip, on the topic of man survival after marriage....

You young guys about to get married. Get as many hobbies now as you think you will need in a lifetime. If you ever thought you wanted to play guitar, get a cheap one now. If you want to be a gunsmith, get an older piece that needs work and proclaim that you will smith it into a work of art.....You get the idea....

Do this now and after the honeymoon you can legitimately claim that you had this hobby LONG before you were married.....:up:

Regards,
Bob

[cadaveca]

I laughed so hard when my iread the first post of this thread...MY wife did the same thing...about 2 years ago...

I now have 3 desks and 5 pc's in that space...









And i built a couple of walls to give her her own space...and piled all of her crap in it!


I got a smack in the face, and then a really good night alone with her, kids off to the babysitters.


Don't fawk up the opportunity!

[123bob]

Oh, I'm starting on a roll now.....:D ....OK, I can't resist...:) Here's a really good tip and perhaps more off-topic than the last.....This one has worked very well for me.

Rule #1 - ALWAYS leave a few beers in your fridge... You'll see why in a minute.

When you have screwed up and gone out drinking with the boys after work, go into the house and go straight to the fridge. Pop a beer without a word. Take a long drink and then sort of just sigh. When wifey comes by to give you crap (and you know she will) just sigh again, lean on the counter (you're somewhat drunk anyway, so this helps...), and explain what a horrible day you had.....:up:

This will only work if you are;

a) following rule #1 above!!
b) not TOO drunk
c) not TOO late
d) working a job with somewhat irregular hours. If you come home at the same time always, forget this technique, flowers would work better. Get them on the way to the bar, that way you don't forget.....:ROTF:
f) Don't have lipstick on your collar. (If you do, you're rightfully going to get screwed, and not by her....You're on your own to salvage it. I'm not promoting infidelity here.....Infidelity is a serious character flaw....)

Now, if you've pulled this off and didn't "over-act". You might just get some "favors" since you had such a stressful day....:clap:

Hope this helps,
Bob

[phicks]

(To Phicks, I know you are a dedicated cruncher and probably know all these tricks already, so go ahead and scroll down and have a laugh....:D )




Oh I did have a laugh. :ROTF:

[Bobsama]

*acquires hobbies before college*

Thanks for the advice... I think.

[SiGfever]

Now here is a wise man....It took me a divorce to see that...:ROTF: I had tons of stuff (crap) here before, now I have even more stuff (crap)....The Wife-ectomy was not all that expensive, so it all worked out.....:D

For those wishing to stay married, first off, look over your shoulder....I'm about to give some married guy survival tips....very classified stuff below..:D :p: When you are clear, scroll down....DISCLAIMER: Remember I said I am divorced. Take this advice with a grain of salt. However, our marriage was fine while this was going on...:rofl: (To Phicks, I know you are a dedicated cruncher and probably know all these tricks already, so go ahead and scroll down and have a laugh....:D )






















St3vil_68, I see a GOLDEN opportunity for you here. I had about 1300 sq-ft of room in my last house that was unfinished. It was the entire second floor. The first floor had enough room for the family to live in. It was framed with stud walls only, much like you have now.

As long as it was a "construction zone", wifey never even came up there. I conducted many important guy projects up there including building a very nice butcher block spalted maple dining table, with wood from a tree I planted myself at age 3, and walnut framing, with Shaker style legs. Very nice and took about two months......There were also many electronics projects done, and some serious computer game play. I finished the entire Star Trek game (1996-97?) completely undisturbed......I managed to milk the overall project for about 3 years....:eek:

The first thing you need to put in is good electrical service and WAY more outlets and circuits than you think you need. (If it will become your farm room, I suggest at least 4-5 dedicated 12 gauge 20 amp circuits.) Put in the CAT 6 cable too. Your walls will never be as open as they are now...(OK, in your case you need to rip off some plastic and start over, but, if you spin it right, that should add several months to the beginning of many construction "delays". This will allow you to get "sidetracked" with the important computer business/crunching you are about to do.

Proceed SLOWLY with the drywall. After all, you are a perfectionist and drywall is VERY hard to get right....:D Texturing and/or painting should take you a good long while. After all, you don't want to have to redo the room if you don't get the texture and/or color right.....wifey will never forgive you for cutting corners here.....:eek:

Carpet comes absolutely last. This is a big budget item and requires you to save money for a good while. You don't want to skimp on your beautiful room with cheapo carpet that will show marks in just a couple of years....

Try not to make any expensive screw-ups. She will appreciate that you want to do this in a cost-effective manner. Errors that involve your labor are OK, you ain't being paid after all. Screw-ups that cost material will be noticed. This will require you to think carefully and ask for advice in order to make sure your heating capacity and duct choices work well, before you drywall. See the game here? Yup, you're right, thinking takes time. More construction delays and the opportunity for you to have to sit up there, and "look" at your work, in order to figure out the next steps. (A "sneaker" fridge works well here in order to have a place for your covert beers, while you are "thinking")

By the time you are done with the project, if it is only one room, she is used to living without it and it becomes your cave.....HERE'S AN IMPORTANT POINT>>> DO NOT screw up and have more kids than you have room for in the rest of the house. Otherwise, your cave is gone faster than you can bat an eye......

Hope this helps,
Bob

I highly recommend following these very important rules. The amount of wisdom in this thread normally comes with a very high price tag. :toast:

[St3vil_68]

St3vil_68, I see a GOLDEN opportunity for you here. I had about 1300 sq-ft of room in my last house that was unfinished. It was the entire second floor. The first floor had enough room for the family to live in. It was framed with stud walls only, much like you have now.

As long as it was a "construction zone", wifey never even came up there. I conducted many important guy projects up there including building a very nice butcher block spalted maple dining table, with wood from a tree I planted myself at age 3, and walnut framing, with Shaker style legs. Very nice and took about two months......There were also many electronics projects done, and some serious computer game play. I finished the entire Star Trek game (1996-97?) completely undisturbed......I managed to milk the overall project for about 3 years....:eek:

The first thing you need to put in is good electrical service and WAY more outlets and circuits than you think you need. (If it will become your farm room, I suggest at least 4-5 dedicated 12 gauge 20 amp circuits.) Put in the CAT 6 cable too. Your walls will never be as open as they are now...(OK, in your case you need to rip off some plastic and start over, but, if you spin it right, that should add several months to the beginning of many construction "delays". This will allow you to get "sidetracked" with the important computer business/crunching you are about to do.

Proceed SLOWLY with the drywall. After all, you are a perfectionist and drywall is VERY hard to get right....:D Texturing and/or painting should take you a good long while. After all, you don't want to have to redo the room if you don't get the texture and/or color right.....wifey will never forgive you for cutting corners here.....:eek:

Carpet comes absolutely last. This is a big budget item and requires you to save money for a good while. You don't want to skimp on your beautiful room with cheapo carpet that will show marks in just a couple of years....

Try not to make any expensive screw-ups. She will appreciate that you want to do this in a cost-effective manner. Errors that involve your labor are OK, you ain't being paid after all. Screw-ups that cost material will be noticed. This will require you to think carefully and ask for advice in order to make sure your heating capacity and duct choices work well, before you drywall. See the game here? Yup, you're right, thinking takes time. More construction delays and the opportunity for you to have to sit up there, and "look" at your work, in order to figure out the next steps. (A "sneaker" fridge works well here in order to have a place for your covert beers, while you are "thinking")

By the time you are done with the project, if it is only one room, she is used to living without it and it becomes your cave.....HERE'S AN IMPORTANT POINT>>> DO NOT screw up and have more kids than you have room for in the rest of the house. Otherwise, your cave is gone faster than you can bat an eye......

Hope this helps,
Bob


This seems very close to what I had 'masterminded' when we moved here. I saw that big room and immediately visualised afinished farm room. One good thing though, is that my wife is 100% behind my computer hobby, so that is a huge plus. She's pretty much conceded that the room is all mine. :D

[Bobsama]

I'll make sure to at least get a room for computers & electronics...

I'm a young guy here--17. College in August or September this year--which is when I'll start crunching. Anyways... when I get a wife, I'll make sure I get my computer room with A/C and wire it (and the entire house) with Cat6 or better. An outlet every 4 ft? Not a problem...

[123bob]

I'll make sure to at least get a room for computers & electronics...

I'm a young guy here--17. College in August or September this year--which is when I'll start crunching. Anyways... when I get a wife, I'll make sure I get my computer room with A/C and wire it (and the entire house) with Cat6 or better. An outlet every 4 ft? Not a problem...

Good man.....:up:

You've got plenty of time on the wife thing.....:rofl:

[64dragon]

I'm a young guy here--17. College in August or September this year--which is when I'll start crunching.

thats the way to do it. i'd say your not paying the electricity bill but you are some what and its a large price tag. just get a good major so you can keep up the hobby
I wish i could have started sooner and taken advantage of that "free" electricity. I started crunching a lil bit last yr as a junior until i had pc issues but now i'm back to crunching but living off campus and paying rent and the electricity bill does directly affect me :(

[Bobsama]

Bob;
The wife thing may not be THAT far off... maybe a half decade. :rofl:

thats the way to do it. i'd say your not paying the electricity bill but you are some what and its a large price tag. just get a good major so you can keep up the hobby
I wish i could have started sooner and taken advantage of that "free" electricity. I started crunching a lil bit last yr as a junior until i had pc issues but now i'm back to crunching but living off campus and paying rent and the electricity bill does directly affect me :(

I may just live on campus for free internet and electricity... well, relatively free (private college). That is unless they start filtering the 'net then I'll move out into an apartment. Till then, E2140 and others "resting" and later adding at least one Quad. I'd actually like to add a Nehalem DP system, though that's a long shot. I'll just have to do the PC repair and building side-job... and a part-time job at a PC boutique or something. Heck--Alienware (disgusting to buy from, I know) is in Miami. I may just have to work there... retail locations should mean big commission for crunching.

Anyways--I just hope that the college lets us do anything on the network. I don't particularly care about P2P (I have easier and safer ways to get shared stuff) or whatever so I'm fine without that. I just need WCG.

Last note... to self... ask for that Celeron "4" 2GHz back. It'll make a fine cruncher and BF2 server.